17 April, 2006
Polygamy & Lebai Malang...
Friday
Good Friday for Singapore, which mean I could spent the whole day with Art :)… qada’ hari selasa hari tu la…. As usual whenever he’s at home, my eating routine will turn upside down… sian baby :P breakfast at nearly noon, lunch at teatime and dinner nearly midnite…
Melepaskan rindu breakfast kat satu tempat yg biasa kitaorg pi seblum Art dpt keje dulu… yummy roti canai, dah lama tak makan kat situ, so I had 2 pieces… heh, eating for two what… (heh the same excuse ;) )
While enjoying our breakfast:
Nonie: heh tgk kucing tu, pregnant2 pun ada hati nak tangkap burung tu… macamla larat nak lompat…
Art: la… biarla dia, mengidam tu…
Nonie: erk! (sib baik tak tercekik roti canai – didn’t expect he came out with that answer…)
Art: ekekekekek
Nonie: haah ek, sian derang, kalau ngidam burung ke, tikus ke, kena tangkap sendiri jer… xde hubby nak tolong carikkan :P
As usual we started merapu after that…..
Saturday
Spent most of the day cleaning up the house… it was the first real cleaning that we did since we moved in the new place…. Whoah… letih giler! That’s the price you have to pay to live in a spacious comfortable place…. Dulu tinggal studio apt & pastu 2 bedrooms single-storey terrace, takdela terasa sangat… tu belum byk perabot & dok banglo lagik... kena pasang maid la camnie... eceh, berangan... Around 3pm, dedua dah terlepet keletihan… then only decided to have lunch.
Lepak2, jalan2 Danga Bay in the evening & after Maghrib went to RTM, intended to watch a special event… unfortunately we were turned down… mentang2la bukan kerabat... heh! Lebai Malang nya rasa… sian kat Art since he was really looking forward to this event… it’s OK, it’s a two nights event… we’ll try again tomorrow.
Art called his old friend late that night… was surprised to know that his friend is getting married… AGAIN next month! I felt sick to my stomach when I heard the news… as far as I know, the guy was married to a very nice woman & they are still together with two beautiful kids… how could he think of marrying another girl?! Even Art find it unbelievable and somewhat funny... Usually we hear these kinds of stories with older couples who’ve been married like what… over 10 years?! But he’s just at bout our age & was married for less than 5 years! Huh men… but it's not that funny for me, in fact it gave me goosebumps!!! I was right saying that he has a very nice wife as she actually agrees to the marriage… she knows the girl, met her & is sincerely willing to share her husband with the girl!!!… she even asked her husband to make it ASAP & went along during the ‘merisik’ ceremony… baiknya!!!… she’s too nice to be treated this way… I'm sure no matter how willing she is, deep down inside, she must've hurt badly... any women would... at least when she initially learnt her husband's intention... I couldn’t imagine being in her place!
The couple (the guy with his current wife) happened to be in KT to explain to the wife’s parents on the husband intention.. isk! and Art invited them over to our house on their way back to KL. Oh! That’s great!!! :P
Sunday
I was upset the whole night till morning & told Art that I might not be able to entertain them as I’m supposed to… I’ll tend to hate to the guy & pity the wife! I know I was being judgemental… but I just couldn’t help it!... maybe because i'm not as baik as that akak the wife. I have to admit that I am selfish & want my husband all to myself... his family and friends are exceptional of course but definitely no other special 'girlfriends' or even wives! However, I’m sure, I’m not the only one who feel this way upon hearing this kind of story… especially as it happen to someone you really know. I know polygamy is halal... sunnah Rasul S.A.W... but hey, gimme a a good statistic of men in Malaysia who really practice this polygamy thingy based on Rasul's sunnah without being unfair at all to the wives... so, you can't really blame me for feeling this way! Kept on imagining how it’s like to be in her shoe… isk sedihnya!!!! Na’uzubillah! After some brainwashing, I felt a bit better & managed to be quite a good host to our ‘special guests’. I still secretly felt a bit uncomfortable though, seeing the guy so happy chatting with Art while his wife looked a bit solemn, reserved & busy entertaining their two active kids. I kept on thinking “How could he!” Anyway, being a good host as I should, I didn’t touch anything near that sensitive subject… but I knew Art & the guy did when they chatted away from us… I was pissed when Art actually wished his friend “Selamat Pengantin Baru!” as they leave… I’m pretty sure the wife heard it… it hurt me, it must’ve hurt her like hell… I think. Later from their interesting exchange of stories, Art told me that the guy intends to let his two wives stay together or at least at houses next to each other… Hmmm maybe that’s the best for them… I really hope that the guy can be fair to both his wives, take good care of the family & they’ll live happily ever after… maybe I should learn not to be so bias and judgemental on other people no matter what they're up too... look at a positive side... i think i should watch Gubra for that... i heard the film teach you something bout that... Anyway I still pray hard that if possible, I don’t have to face that kind of thing in my life… AMIN… please don’t yea abg….
We were a couple of Lebai Malang & frustrated again tonight. For some reason, I was really upset!!! When Art is the one who should feel more upset as he was actually the one being so eager for that event… anyway, I'm not sure... whom should I be mad at... maybe the RTM JB people for their lack/misleading information... bongoks! Went straight home out of frustration… as usual whenever I’m in a bad mood I would sleep or do something productive like Bree (the Desperate Housewives)hehe... which resulted in washing up of all the dishes and cleaning up the kitchen…. Then only I felt better & spent the rest of the night cuddling in front of the TV.
What a weekends…..